pardon my text friendly abbreviations... it is 630am and I'm really just writing as it comes to mind. I'll polish it at a later date.
marriage and tattoos
same thing right?
think about it:
u can't get rid of it when Ur upset then take it back when Ur happy...even If u walk away for the moment i still there ... u can hide it and cover it up but it's still there...it's a product of Ur own design....
A bad tattoo like a bad marriage will haunt u... its noticeable n Ur stuck explaining why it was a mistake. you did it for the wrong reasons or at the time it seemed like a good idea cause you didn't think about it in the long run. say you change Ur mind, that's fine. but the cover up doesn't erase the tattoo before it...it embeds it within the new design so that u can't see what was there before... the next marriage or divorce doesn't change the reality of the first marriage...the lessons you learned carry over. tattoos are permanent works.marriage is a permanent institution. so before u say yes to the ring or the needle u know what Ur gettin yourself into... there is no do over...most people are in love with the initial fancy... the 15min of fun and glory...
but what about later? when age sets in and Ur skin is weathered and wrinkled... when life sets in and the honeymoon is over and u hate the sound of her chew or the way he brushes his teeth. that's when it's too late to take a look at what u did. but if u thought it out before u took the plunge...then the artwork is graceful among the pleats... he still gives u butterflies...she is still Ur everything...
for better or for worse are without a doubt the most difficult challenge ever given to a human being...n understanding what it means BEFORE the I do is what most people can't do. it means when u have no strength left in Ur heart...when Ur at Ur absolute limit mentally physically emotionally, u hold hands and wipe the blood of each other's knees and you get up. u hit rock bottom and u look in each other's eyes and u get up. amidst the anger the anguish the resentment the pain the sorrow the disappointment there's the smallest, tiniest, barely detectable spark of life and love left u fuel it until it is ablaze... that's what ur sayin I do to... u have to know that before u say yes. saying yes doesn't have to mean u can do that right now... yes means you're willing to get to the point to Say I do...it means I know what I'm getting myself into and I want to learn how to be strong enough to get through it.
when u know you want a tattoo...if u do ir right first you're sitting down looking at designs...Ur planning Ur sketching deciding where this thing is going to go. where will it fit best. once u find the one u want u find the right artist to execute Ur design properly... saying yes means finding the right way to execute things properly because you have already thought everything else out...
I do is when u sit in the chair and the needle hits Ur skin. it's exhilarating exciting and new...u want to show it off and flaunt it... but when its healed and set into Ur skin...what then? do u forget about it unless u see it? do u always know it's there and smile to yourself feeling confident with Ur decision? or do u hate it n think it was a terrible mistake??
